tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759736729282576044.post8370392306622055394..comments2024-02-22T16:03:48.878-05:00Comments on The Morrey, The Merrier!: NaBloPoMo 15: ConnectionsErinMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09971744619171716912noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759736729282576044.post-63623257005037025602010-11-16T09:08:08.941-05:002010-11-16T09:08:08.941-05:00Of course, he still sees you guys as a strange cou...Of course, he still sees you guys as a strange couple, but there's really no getting past that for any of us.<br /><br />Seriously, though, this was a really good post, and really well-written. Nice one!Siobhanhttp://www.twitter.com/SiobhanK524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759736729282576044.post-45157812334660619692010-11-16T04:03:43.140-05:002010-11-16T04:03:43.140-05:00Very interesting Erin, thank you.
One question fo...Very interesting Erin, thank you.<br /><br />One question for you. If/when you do it again would you/could you do something different re childcare? For example, delay it until he had more language, use a child minder/nanny so that he has a single caregiver rather than a group?<br /><br />That bit of the story really killed me, of course it must have been terrible for Melkamu. And very hard for all of you.<br /><br />Thanks for such a thought-provoking post.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759736729282576044.post-66412054274206127872010-11-15T19:48:59.447-05:002010-11-15T19:48:59.447-05:00What a privilege to hear the perspective of your m...What a privilege to hear the perspective of your mother's heart, Erin, and to see from Melkamu's perspective. Well said, as always. I'm enjoying your frequent posts very much!trmillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942766399441835159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759736729282576044.post-59309522940267104332010-11-15T19:15:56.076-05:002010-11-15T19:15:56.076-05:00I agree!
Though of course, there IS something spe...I agree!<br /><br />Though of course, there IS something special about the bio/birth connection (otherwise why on earth would open adoptions be something to even consider??). But there is something extremely wonderful and for me at least, surprisingly enriching in more than just the "get a child" way about adopting. Because I am an adoptive mother, I'm a better person in a lot of ways, and I really believe that. <br /><br />Though as an only child the bio connection is also intensely interesting to me, and has been fun to have too.<br /><br />In the end I think that these are reasons why I cringe when I hear people say "there's no difference" or "I forget which one is adopted!"....it just sounds FAKE to me. And like trying too hard...why on earth would you want to forget that your child is adopted? It's ok that your children are different and come to your family differently. I suspect even amongst bio kids, each relationship is different.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759736729282576044.post-28098839606096209522010-11-15T18:48:57.312-05:002010-11-15T18:48:57.312-05:00The Dance of Attachment is a wonderous thing. As ...The Dance of Attachment is a wonderous thing. As a mom to 2 through adoption I can say it is different even with each child who enters your life through adoption. I have one who I am have been doing this dance with for 7 year, 7 YEARS and has only begun to allow real hugs and say "I love you" in the past few months and one who hugged and loved securely from the get go. Boy did she make it easy!!!! Now, 3+ years later she has taken to comforting her big sister with, "Don't worry, no matter what mom loves you." At least one of the gets it.<br /><br />Shannawilisonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11776367961493584477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759736729282576044.post-27069734891365579872010-11-15T17:18:37.245-05:002010-11-15T17:18:37.245-05:00I trust you and believe you, Erin. Thank you for s...I trust you and believe you, Erin. Thank you for sharing the perspective through Kamu's eyes.Marcy Petthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07622580719792505056noreply@blogger.com